Meeting People

[DKH]

Edit: I don't need any answers.

[Scooter]

I'm just wondering... how do you meet (in particular a lover)? There is this great community as well as others online where girls and guys all share the same interests but, it's far from like that in real life. Just curious how any of you meet these kind of potential mates.

That's a good question.
I'm still looking! Hahahahaha
I'm on my second marriage and questioning it lately. That makes only 2 women I've been with in the last 35 years.

You're looking for a "partner" and not just some buddies to hang out with.

Places like this Forum will show that we come from everywhere and seldom are we near each other. You need to find venues where like minded people go to or frequent.
I am reluctant to use the term "hang out". Not if your looking for a LTR (long term relationship).
Stay out of Bars and Clubs when trying to find Mr. or Ms. Right. You don't want alcohol and/or drugs obscuring the view or masking behaviors.

Other than that, I have to paraphrase an old line that my GrandMother used.
To find your Prince(ss) you're going to have to kiss a lot of toads.

Keep you eyes open in places like the grocery store, laundromat, book store even (yuk) Wal-Mart. You have to go where women go. Eat where the women eat. Shop where the women shop. You have to like what the women like. Smile, be personable, be yourself. they'll see through you quickly.

And don't get caught up in big boobs or tight pants. The person you're really looking for will be in their head, not in their pants.

[DKH]

Edit: I am ok.

[DKH]

After time the fire starts to smolder and smoke but, throw a new log on and it will blaze once again.

[Scooter]

Not to burst a bubble for you but things won't ever Just "Fall Into Place". The first couple of years together are the best it is. After that you just decide to not talk about the things that start trouble. Or you make a deal that you get to go out and follow your dream and so do they. Whatever you do, NEVER bring a third person into the equation. If you can't find common ground, go your separate ways and find someone who you can be comfortable with. We used to be that way. The first 20 or so years were OK. It was as if we were soul mates. We stimulated each other physically and mentally. Now I just don't know.

I'm gonna' leave this here before I think about it too much. I wouldn't want the GoogleBot to spread too much of this around.

I wish you well. But remember that you only go thru life once. Don't wait for something to come along. It may never come to you. Go out and find what you are looking for. You may not find it but at least you will have tried. Every day that passes is a day lost and there is no guaranteed amount of days. This may be the last one.

[DKH]

Edit: I'm ok.

[Revs_mod]

You want to know what are significant others are like..... My wife is somewhat conservative. She knows what she likes and that is about it. She will try new things once in a while, not too often. It doesn't bother me that much. We have been together going on 12 years. Married 8. I am somewhat open minded. I believe in 'let you do what you want, I'll do what I want.' I am new to the bod mod idea, even though my ears have been pierced for almost 12 years. She has a tattoo and wants more. I have 2 and want more. I want more piercings, she doesn't. But, for all our differences, I wouldn't trade her for the world.

[DKH]

You want to know what are significant others are like..... My wife is somewhat conservative. She knows what she likes and that is about it. She will try new things once in a while, not too often. It doesn't bother me that much. We have been together going on 12 years. Married 8. I am somewhat open minded. I believe in 'let you do what you want, I'll do what I want.' I am new to the bod mod idea, even though my ears have been pierced for almost 12 years. She has a tattoo and wants more. I have 2 and want more. I want more piercings, she doesn't. But, for all our differences, I wouldn't trade her for the world.


Same as my girl. Congrats on your 12 years, man.

[iamblackbird]

Well.... let me throw in my bit.

Matt and I met here in college, walking through the dorms. We really got to know one another in, of all places, a sports bar.
But it works for us, and love can be a wonderful thing.

My current boyfriend and I are a weird sort of fit. Clothed, we both look rather normal- jeans, tee shirts, shoes, etc. Closer inspection shows you that I am pierced, scarred, and tattooed... he's had 3 ear piercings, all retired, and that's it. He's all for whatever I want to do, though. I'm considering another few piercings that would cut into our sex life, and he's all right with it, because he knows that it is something I do for myself. As for tattoos, he enjoys them as much as I do, he just doesn't want any of his own.

Our personalities are different in many aspects- I tend to plan, schedule, and make lists... he's the kind of guy to just go with something, and see what happens. I'm anxious and a bit high-strung sometimes, he's the counterbalance to that. He calms me, and I motivate him. It's a good give and take, but that doesn't mean we don't get on each other's nerves sometimes. That's just human nature, and when we disagree, we talk about it.

I do mean, talk, by the way. If I get too hotheaded and angry, I leave. Literally, I leave the apartment, have a smoke or a walk or just jump around a bit, and calm down. That way, I don't bite his head off, and see if my anger is justified, or a result of being a woman who wants to win an argument (I'll admit it!).

My ex-fiancee, however, was pierced and tattooed. We are not on speaking terms. Just because his lifestyle mirrored mine did NOT mean that we got along. Our personalities didn't match up very well, in the end. three and half years into the relatioship, I ended it, because I wasn't and never would be happy with him.

Take these things how you will. Each relationship is different, and what works for one person could work well, or could be disastrous for you. I am open-minded, and so is Matt. We accept that we each like different things, and give each other enough space for it.

Good luck.

[DKH]

Thanks blackbird.