I Think Im Gonna Be Alone

[mouse666]

I honestly think i love piercings more than anything my gf is in tears on the phone. Saying that I love piercings more than her cause all i talk about is what im gonna go next or what jewelry im gonna buy or who im giving a piercing. She tells me not to do it but i do anyway cause i want it soo bad piercings are my thing because i can do things with a needle that others cant and im totally in control of my piercings for the most part. And thats why i love piercings.

I think im a piercing addict and its runeing my relation ship and i dont know what to do someone help i cant decide what more important my gf of 2 years or my piercings.
i love her but my piercings are what make me, me.

[highseas]

i think what you're doing is unhealthy.
you're letting your physical appearance dictate who you are. nothing on the outside should decide how you are on the inside. sure, like what you like, enjoy what you enjoy -- but don't let your hobbies consume you or control you. i'm glad that you're interested in body modification. you're the youth that keeps it going. but you're teetering on the edge of taking it too far.

obsessing over anything isn't healthy.
it is an addiction, sure. i can relate. but nothing is worth negating the people around you who love you. your parents aren't happy because you're doing things that they see is bad for you at a young impressionable age. you're girlfriend is worried about you, seeing that your relationship has become nothing more than just a vent to spout out your new ideas on putting holes in your body. if it's something you both enjoy together, don't let everything slant in your direction. your vice is taking over wonderful relationships.

step back and evaluate the situation.
you are being selfish.

[iamblackbird]

Obsession and addiction are two acts that are nothing but pure narcissism and selfishness. I say this because I know first hand (not with piercings, but other stuff), and it took a huge toll on my relationships. There's people that I do not speak with anymore because of it.

Evaluate what you're doing. Sure, piercings are fun, but do you want them to be the ONLY thing in your life?

You mentioned something about control in there... that's often a problem that people have in addictions to anything-- pills, food, piercings, gambling, etc. That's an underlying issue you need to address.

[Scooter]

I'll back My Sweet delicious, delectable, delightful Birdyness on this.
I have an Addiction at the moment but it's Breathing!

Other than that? You really need to sit down and take a serious look at where your life is heading.

Mom

[rainbird]

Mouse, you do not sound very happy to me so perhaps you recognise deep down that your obsession with mods is not everything that you need from your life. Piercing can be addictive but that does not mean that you have to be addicted to it - or anything else for that matter. Do you love self piercing because it is something which is completely within your control?
I am a total control freak but part of my control is not letting any 1 part of me control my life completely (I'm a complicated bird at the best of times I know).
You need to take a serious look at yourself and when you decide what you want for yourself from your life you have to decide if you want to be alone or to have the joy of sharing it with someone else. If you don't want to be alone you have to be prepared to consider what the other wants and to make compromises on both sides. A 2 year relationship is obviously a serious one and not to be cast aside lightly & you do sound as though you realize this.
Not meant to be a lecture but I was very happily married for 30 years.

[mouse666]

piecings isnt EVERYTHING but it is a big part i do go out and do stuff spend time with nat go to mall have normal life but yes i do talk about it constantly and think about it but i do have a life out side of piercing and mods and ive never blown anyone off to go do something for mods its just something that in my free time or thinking time is on my mine or something im doing

[Jameson13]

Then what you need to do is sit down with her and discuss it with her. It sounded like it has turned into an obsession that hinders any further development you and her have as a couple.

Trust me, I know the feeling. I used to work at a Hot-Rod shop and it consumed 90% of my life. I lived for the "Order of the Piston". My relationships with family as well as friends suffered. That was a mistake on my part. You need to sit back and evaluate the things that are most important to you in life. Everything is a compromise, you should be willing to as well as your girlfriend. There is always a common ground you both can exist on.

[Chun]

I honestly think i love piercings more than anything
Think about this. When I encounter any new activity (cars, piercing, games, whatever), I'm engrossed in it and tend to spend more time pursuing it than I should. After some time passes, my intensity level drops. I may still enjoy the activity (I've been working on my VW Bug for 18 years), but it isn't the center of my attention.

You can always step away from an activity and get back into it. Relationships don't work that way--if you back out, it may well be over.